Here are a couple of interviews where pastor’s wife, Nancy Wilson, talks about difficulties in marriage. She’s counseled many women over the years in many different situations and in these interviews she provides some gracious encouragement and counsel.
Garden Variety Marriage Troubles
When Marriage is a Train Wreck
You can find these and other interviews with Nancy Wilson at CanonWired: Ask Nancy.
And for a helpful little book on what it looks like to respect your husband, I’ve found For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn very helpful.